Saying “No” with Grace

Saying “No” with Grace

Yesterday, I said “no” to someone, and this is what they wrote back to me: “Thanks for the quick, productive, and honest conversation.” Now let me give you the backstory: A large tech company got in touch with me via email more or less saying, “Hey, we’re doing this...
Luck Is a Long String of YES’s

Luck Is a Long String of YES’s

Here’s a common exchange that I have: Me: “I owe most of my success to luck.” Other person: “Don’t say that. You work really hard!” Most of us have a knee-jerk reaction to the mention of luck. We deny it, choosing instead to focus on the hard work that went into...
How to Feel Progress

How to Feel Progress

As humans, we can’t help but be goal-oriented. We love to move forward. We love to feel a sense of momentum. And, more than anything, we love to tick things off a list. This manifests as something called completion bias, a happy-making hit of dopamine that we get...
The Problem with the “What Else?” Mindset

The Problem with the “What Else?” Mindset

I am an inveterate planner. Which means I spend a lot of time thinking about what’s NEXT. Probably too much time. And when I finally accomplish all those things I was planning to do, I spend little (if any) time acknowledging what I’ve achieved. Because I’m already...

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